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Platonic friendships. My friend and I were having one heck of a debate on the subject. He was telling me how males and females can never be friends. I, of course, disagree because I have a quite a few male friends, and I don't ever go out and make friends with people of the opposite sex only if I think I could sleep with them. That's absurd. But my friend believes that the platonic coexistence is a facade covering up the sexual impulses that lies beneath the surface.

"Most of the guys in your life do think you're an amazing person. But they all or most think you're hot and would bone you if they had a chance. They're waiting for an opportunity. That is the only reason why they are still in your life." Exaggerated much? But I guess he's saying there's this desire for things you can't have. Being friends with “taken” friends shows that there are boundaries that actions will not go, but thoughts will go. Women tend to be more sensitive to their male friends’ relationship status and uninterested in pursuing those who were already involved with someone else.

But overall... how disturbing. I get that there is some truth to it. Everyone wants romance, and in these relationships, it lurks around the corner, waiting to pounce at the most inopportune moment. I guess gender differences experience the opposite-sex friendships differently, hence why these platonic friendships do not really exist. Females believes it it does. Males knows it doesn't.

In most scenarios, he explains, men are attracted to their female friends than vice versa, but men are misguided by the flirting or just the female being responsive and nice as "SHE WANTS THE D". [Me rolling my eyes here.] Females, on the other hand, are oblivious and assumed that the lack of attraction was mutual. As a result, men consistently overestimated the level of attraction felt by their female friends, and women consistently underestimated the level of attraction felt by their male friends.

As much as I understand my friend's point of view, I still disagree. I honestly think most of my friendships with the opposite sex are mutual. There are exceptions to his theory. My friends are the exceptions. Case closed.

What are your thoughts on platonic friendships?

Until next post,
K